Thanks so much to all of you guys for the confirmation... me and my fiance have been working through such hard times and it feels really good to know I can come here for support. My therapist basically said the same stuff as you RomanSunburn and we worked out a safety plan for if things escalate again like that. There's a place called project safe that I can go to if I have to and my family knows the situation and says I can live with them for a while if I need to.

I've been talking with my fiance about it this week and he's been nothing but remorseful. I haven't mentioned the thing about him grabbing me yet and I don't know if he remembers or if he was too drunk. I don't know if I should say anything, I just don't want to start another fight and I'm not sure if there's a point in mentioning it. It's been a few days and I think he's slowly starting to grasp how bad the situation was. He actually agreed to go to therapy which is the most shocking and relieving thing I can think of. We also agreed that if one of us ever calls a time out during a fight we'll leave each other alone. We've had rules like this in the past and he didn't respect them but maybe with the therapy and/or me refusing to put up with this kind of behavior from here on it'll work this time. I guess this is the last chance I'm giving him and I feel a lot more hopeful now that he's willing to get help. But anyway... wish me luck and thank you for your support!