Okay I have a question about dominance and submission. First I will say I am trying to understand what makes this enjoyable. I am not into it, but I am trying to understand for a friend who is into it and is asking my opinion.

So apparently she likes being spanked, but apparently her husband won't spank her. I am wondering what would make a person want to spank someone (and maybe this my view of spanking as a negative thing and full of anger and hatred) that they love and care about.

I just want to understand because I want to help her explain why she wants it and what he might get out of it.