This just may be a though, but have you tried to get any additional training/ education for a new/better job. I have a degree in engineering and I can go to just about any state and find a job. The starting salary for an engineer is 40K-60K a year for a fresh graduate. That equates to about $19-29$ per hour, but varies by state. There is a state funded community college where I live that has low tuition and most people that go there find jobs right away. The cost is on the order of $4K a year. For the price of a nice TV you could get some valuable knowledge that will help you the rest of your life. Just another thought that maybe you didn't consider.

Is it an option to stay with her and advanced your career to find a job in the same state? Maybe sell the house and get a house that has a more affordable payment? I don't know what your profession is, or what you want to do. Some employers offer tuition assistance as well. Sometimes there are strings attached, but if you manage to get skills that get you to the next higher position you will reap the benefits later.