Hello lonelyemotionalgirl! Welcome to PsychoCentral! You are not alone in how you feel about yourself and your situation. I identify with the people pleaser term, for example. I have to set some boundaries to avoid being a people pleaser. smmath have given some good ideas for you to consider.
If you have any questions, ask one of the PC members. So, take care, I hope you can post more of your thoughts, if you feel you need to.