I used to try to set boundaries, but people feel like I am a doormat. It gets hard for me to say no. Often, people say they will help me in return, and they never do. I always end up dropping my plans to help someone else, or lending someone money that is never paid back. Whenever I need help, everyone is too busy. Also, I often get too stressed out because I do not have enough time to get my own tasks done, because I am too busy helping everyone else. I need to learn how to say no, and realize that it is okay. Thank you very much.
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Originally Posted by optimize990h
Hello lonelyemotionalgirl! Welcome to PsychoCentral! You are not alone in how you feel about yourself and your situation. I identify with the people pleaser term, for example. I have to set some boundaries to avoid being a people pleaser. smmath have given some good ideas for you to consider.
If you have any questions, ask one of the PC members. So, take care, I hope you can post more of your thoughts, if you feel you need to.
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