(((Anne))) recently my wife made the comment that she is now realizing just how messed up my childhood was and the effect it had on me. We have been together 13 years. She eluded to the fact that had she known from the beginning she may have made different choices. Truth is she has known from the beginning and back then it didn't effect me like it has lately. Marriage's are for better or for worse. As we change and grow , we will all have hills and valleys. Nobody remains the person they were at marriage until death. We are not stagnant creatures. I am sure if your H felt like he couldn't handle things, he would tell you. "Partner of a Survivor" , I didn't realize that required a special skill set.