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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
I also thought he was a total pansy. The same with my T. He has teared up on several occasions, and I am always a little perplexed, irritated, and think to myself that he is a wussy boy. In another area of my brain, I am touched that both of these feel for me so much.
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I think that says alot about your H and his compassion for you, and for his ability to be emotionally responsive in general. I also think that someone can be compassionate and not tear up, so I hear what stopdog is saying about how this would irritate her.
I have a lot of difficulty in T when he expresses compassion or sympathy. I do not react well and he pretty much shuts down his reaction right away. This I like. However, I'd like it if I could be more accepting of these kinds of responses, from anyone. I want to be more able to drink in what people offer me, even if most of me wants to punch them in the face.
I think that I associate a compassionate or emotional response with someone thinking that I'm weak, hence the violent impulse.