Yes, I know what you mean AngelWolf, I have been like that myself. What I have learned is that first I had to see whatever was damaged in myself, or troubled that I struggled with in my past that I either avoided or developed around. Therapy is about seeing what is there first and realizing that we may not have had enough knowledge at the time to understand how to "deal" with whatever is there.

It is much like repairing a computer that has some viruses in it that can slow it down so it isn't working right somehow. Viruses have to be found and often some reprogramming has to also take place before a computer can get back on track with running better.

However, with the human brain it is a bit more challenging because unlike the computer, the brain has "emotions" that can be attached to these "viruses". It takes time to work through whatever is there and learn how to handle these "emotions and anxiety" that comes with dealing with each virus.

People "think" they are somehow "ruined" or " forever doomed" but that is simply not the case, our brains are more than capable of taking on new information and learning new skills so we can function better. It is important to make sure that while you are working on your personal issues "in therapy" that you don't "continue to program bad self messages" while you are trying to deal with whatever is there that is challenging you. Depending on what is there in each of us it takes "time" to first find it, acknowledge that is there and then slowly work on finally overcoming it in a way that is "compatable" to how the human brain "can actually heal and function better". Important to the human brain is "safety, comfort, validation, and support for healing" however, lots of patience and "self care" as well, very important.