Sorry, I read it anyway

I think that says alot about your H and his compassion for you, and for his ability to be emotionally responsive in general. I also think that someone can be compassionate and not tear up, so I hear what stopdog is saying about how this would irritate her.

I have a lot of difficulty in T when he expresses compassion or sympathy. I do not react well and he pretty much shuts down his reaction right away. This I like. However, I'd like it if I could be more accepting of these kinds of responses, from anyone. I want to be more able to drink in what people offer me, even if most of me wants to punch them in the face.

I think that I associate a compassionate or emotional response with someone thinking that I'm weak, hence the violent impulse.