quite likely true - in another reply I mention something about this. her father owned his own business for 50 years at least and he was a great man but there was no way but his - his son and daughter (my wife) are much the same. Neither are really employable by anyone because they need to do things their own way. They recently tried working together and that has ended with both of them thinking the other is completely unreasonable - which they are - and neither will bend. My wife has not really held a long term job but has a BS in business and some masters work towards an education degree. She's worked in private schools and I think that's one thing she has enjoyed but it seems that as soon as there's a formal relationship where she is accountable and paid something snaps in her head. I'm not sure if its a confidence thing or not because as a PTA presidents and school board members, she is very confident but also drives things through and believes that others have to come around to her way of thinking. I've tried to build her confidence, told her we'd find a way for her to finish her masters (even though I can't find a way to finish my bachelors). She's also very crafty and makes beautiful jewelry and scarves and such but won't actively try to sell anything.