When my father died, (folks lived next door,) and all that family down and around and family dynamics et al and NO ONE understanding my inabilities... arrrggghhhhh!!!! It did take more than a year to fully unwind - partially because then I was the contact for mom, next door, and getting her to a place where she could live easier alone.
What's trying for me is like this week... weekend IT's beautiful weather out, but I don't dare do anything out of the ordinary, since I haven't had PT since Tuesday and he is out of town and I won't have PT till next Thursday. It's difficult to not tense up just thinking aboutit

also, when I do feel break through pain, it's a flash of thought OH NO! but I have to overcome that or it will lead to more pain in itself. The mind and body are truly connected...
I guess in one way I'm fortunate in that I DO receive immediate negative physical response to emotions, that way I can correct my thinking almost immediately. Most ppl don't notice that and stuff their emotions away where they eat at them.