Hello,

Being a teen myself I can start by telling you the good news, chances are one day he will tell you what is happening. The bad news however, is when he tells you is unknown.

Being a 16 year old is hard and complex, but everyone lives through it, some with more bruises then others. It's always good to respect privacy but limits must ALWAYS be set into place. You are the parents and no matter how much your son doesn't like it you have the right to care. You do have the right to know what is going on, but where that right lessens is the control piece.

As coming with age the control that you have over your teen slowly dwindles. This is the time when you have less power and your teen will do your bidding because he/she respects you. The older they get sadly to say the less influence you have without their agreement. You never want to have that power struggle with a teen because more then less they will almost always win, or the original argument is lost. If you take away a teens phone for talking back persay this quickly can escalate because your teen is now at a stage where they respect you because they chose so, not because of fear of punishment. Every child is different but most reach this conclusion one way or another.

my advice would be to sit down and talk to him. Show your concern and simply ask. Don't push the first few times, but if he still doesn't get in... and if your still worried start pushing harder, because it's important for you to know...