Cutters tend to have their own set of specific issues, like borderline personality disorder--cutting is kind of a hallmark feature of it (I should know, I have BPD, though I'm not a cutter) and for us BPDers sometimes online interaction is just easier than offline for certain reasons. Maybe you're meeting women for whom that statement is true, I don't know. Anyway, I'm 34 and I've always had a difficult time with dating and socially, though the few people with whom I'm social don't understand it; they think I'm just perfectly outgoing. (BPDers are chameleons. But I digress.) I like hamster-bamsters suggestion about the runner's club. And have you tried Meetup.com? It depends on how big your city is, but it can be a good start for finding people whose interests match yours.