This isn't nearly as long as the one that got erased, sorry.

I'm glad to hear that you'll work your best not to make him feel he has to choose between happiness and family. It sounds like as fast as she moves in with you she'll be able to grow. He may make some bad financial decision but that goes with the territory.

This is how she was raised. You'll have to teach her to be independent but in a kid-friendly way. You should urge her to get a childcare degree and work in a daycare to get experience in how she wants to raise her own children. While your son is deployed. Finding a career that's in home work like this does not go against any of her beliefs. She has achieved her goals in life, marrying your son. Now you need to help her find a new goal. I know it's grating to see people not use “common cents”. My family refuses to give me or my family anything practical for Christmas or birthdays.

Divorce is not an option in my family either. That is why per-marriage and post marriage therapy is important. My pastor refused to marry anyone that did not go to 16 weekly intensive couples therapy. He urged newly weds to do at least monthly therapy for the first year. Money/ credit cards would be handled here.

Most families are not like yours. Take it as a complement. Most of my son's friends are amazed at our family too. It's sad but reality.