I had a T use my poetry. I don't really mind if something happens with my stuff away from me and I'm not there. I'm a bit flattered that it might be helpful to someone else and know they aren't going to know me, it's not like my name and all about me will be discussed (though about me was discussed with the poetry).

It took me a long while (6-7 years) to stop the writing instead of real time conversation. I stopped myself, giving it a try for a specific period of time, experimenting with what it felt like and how hard it was and whether it helped me or not, etc. It did make things more immediate and precious; I could only talk to T when I was there in session and I wanted to talk to her so I learned/taught myself how.