I also transitioned from writing everything down to talking about most things and only writing the very, very hard things down. For me it was absolutely the writing itself which helped me learn to say things and not depend on the writing itself, but it took a while! First the writing helped me access the feelings rather than talking about my difficulties from a great distance. Then it helped me to discuss aspects of the difficult stuff, and risk being brave and saying a little and having a strong sense of knowing that T would be okay with whatever I needed to say. I think it helped me to be more aware of the thoughts that I wouldn't say out loud too. I used to brush them aside and then I'd panic in between sessions and write them all down. Now I notice them and I risk saying them at the time. I think it's all been about taking risks. Like saying what the writing topic is about, even if I couldn't go into any details. Then slowly saying a detail or two about why I wrote and also what I wrote, before handing my writing over.