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Originally Posted by refika
When the session was over, T asked if he could have the list. I was shocked, but gave it to him, with much anxiety. When I saw him last session, the first question I asked is why he wanted what I wrote.
He said "well, I want to use it with my students and for teaching purposes".
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This REALLY bothered me. That he asked for your list without telling you why and then at the next session he only told you why when you asked. It sounds like he planned to use your material without even telling you!!! Honestly, it made my ethics radar alarms go off immediately. If he wanted to use your writings, he should have asked you if it was okay BEFORE he asked if he could have the list.
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Originally Posted by refika
He said okay, but to make sure I bring them and give them to him...
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He sure sounds pushy about this, like he is ordering you to do this.
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Originally Posted by refika
He did say that he would only use my stuff with my permission and acceptance
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Then why didn't he ask you for permission before he took your list? It all sounds very strange to me, like he was trying to use your stuff without really telling you.
I would be very put off by his behavior. If I did decide to let him use something I had written, I would make it just one small thing. He can teach without umpteen writings from you.
FWIW, my T has used something I wrote for a conference. It was not about therapy, but it was relevant to a common concern of ours. And I shared it with him in therapy. He told me about the conference and how what I had written would be so useful in a presentation he was giving, and [key point] he said this all BEFORE taking what I wrote. He asked my permission and I gave it, and he was very grateful and humble. Later I heard that his use of the material had been very successful, and I was pleased by this. It just sounds so different from how your T has behaved.