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Originally Posted by GirlOfManyFaces
It was my fault though. I had many, MANY chances to run away from him. But I didn't. I lead him on. Even after the first time he raped me, I still stayed. I was literally blinded by love. He is my soul mate. And he used me. And I let him. It IS my fault.
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Is your therapist telling you this?
you don't have to answer that.
But I still disagree.
Rape is not our fault!
Many survivors can physically run, but they are paralyzed with fear or they are so attached to their abusers that they feel compelled to stay and allow their abusers to hurt them.
I know you are in a difficult situation where you cannot switch therapists. You have to hear what she says, I know. Do you agree with her? I don't agree with her.
I hope someday you can leave this situation and realize that abuse is NEVER our fault.
I allowed many people to abuse me and do whatever they wanted to do to me until I had to realize deep down inside that I was okay and did NOT deserve it.
Now I am trying to get away from situations and ppl that hurt me.
It is trial and error.
But it can be done.
It can.
I have to believe that all the time, even when I don't want to.
Carol