Maybe you should count those of us on this board in this group?

The fact that one person has had this response to you-- which you so richly deserve-- demonstrates that it is not about you. You are the same person regardless of your history. And for those people who have used your disclosure to hurt you, feh on them and may karma take care of it within the universe.

I've made some bad choices in disclosures over the years. One was more recent, she asked me if I had been abused and I answered honestly. Next time, I think I will take it as a clue that if someone actually wants to know, then I will not tell them. A couple have done that over reaction thing and went nuts with the how horrible routine until I asked them to stop. One person said (and she had actually been a clinical psychologist for about five minutes at that time) that there is no way I'd been abused, because all "those people" were institutionalized.

But there is that cliche that people say, maybe Dr. Seuss says it best, that you should speak your mind because those who matter won't mind, and those who mind don't matter. You are never required to disclose, though, and I've learned to wait years into a new relationship to do so.