I try to do things with her, but she doesn't like to go out or anything like that. We go out to eat someone once a week or so. We get along really well and we don't argue with each other. We have disagreements and sometimes we get annoyed, but it doesn't turn into screaming matches. Neither one of us has any control issues, I guess for the most part our relationship is out of control. What I mean is we both do what we want and it doesn't bother the other for the most part. There was an incident a few years ago were I caught her having phone sex with some guy she meet online. We resolved that and to my knowledge nothing like that has happened since.

I don't think she has any mental health issues. Maybe agoraphobia, I dunno. She does go to the store and to her friends house, but that's about it, unless we go somewhere together. Before we meet, she was in an abusive relationship for a couple of years with some guy. I think she has resolved that, but I notice she looks to me to make all the decisions about life stuff. Well anything that involves finances.

She loves me and I think the compassion thing stems from her growing up with 4 brothers. She is a bit of a tomboy and takes after her dad. Her philosophy with a lot of things to push on and don't let it get to you.

She returns affection to me when I kiss or hug her, but she isn't usually the one to initiate things. It makes me happy touch and hold her, but she gets annoyed with it. Not sexually, but to just touch and feel connected to someone, ya know? I feel somewhat rejected when she gets annoyed by it. I get frustrated. When I don't do those things she says our relationship is like two friends who sleep in the same bed. When I do it whenever I want, she get annoyed and says I am too clingy. Sometimes it feels like I can't make her happy, and it gives me a sense of rejection. Our relationship is more good than anything, and I care very deeply for her.