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Old Feb 17, 2013, 02:23 PM
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Originally Posted by EagleNebula View Post
Here is an off the wall suggestion. Do you know someone (an adult, like a school counselor) who can be your advocate? Someone who can meet you at your therapist's and talk to her on your behalf because she doesn't or won't listen to you? Maybe you do have the voice to stand up for yourself, I don't know, but she obviously is not really listening to you.

I wonder what her credentials are?

Something to keep in the back of your mind as you get older, I am seeing a Clinical Psychologist, a Doctor with a Psy.D. after his name, like Dr. Jones, Psy.D.

I say this because I'm now 49 and have been in and out of therapy since I was 21. I went to therapy at that time because I HATED my Mom. My male therapist (Masters in Social Work) convinced me I really had issues with my Dad. Perhaps I did have some issues with my Dad but it was my Mom who really really was the abusive one. Emotionally abusive. And now, after almost one year with my Psy.D. I am really making some progress.

Until you find a good therpaist, these issues will haunt you all your life and you can either deal with them and have a chance at a happy life or avoid them and have a miserable life.

I feel for you so much. What all the other posters said is so true so I won't reiterate anything here.

Please try to keep yourself safe.

With peace and love,
EagleNebula.
Yeah, how can you have a voice when you are not heard?!

I too had a woman abuser.

And credentials, too. Yeah. I even saw t's with impressive credentials and they used them on me the wrong way. Or they were so burned out and overworked (god bless them; many t's who accept gov. insurance are!) that they can't address my issues properly.

I cannot reiterate enough how effective therapy depends on how they use their knowledge or how they deal with the clients.

Carol
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Thanks for this!
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