Rapunzel, Thanks for the reply. Yes I have also thought that perhaps this is a mid-life crisis, especially when he bought the expensive car. I think he manipulates me in a very clever way. I sometimes don't even see it.

He has offered to pay for me for a course on Game Lodge Management. He has done the course and thought I might enjoy doing it as well, so he went ahead and registered me without first discussing it with me. I am just not interested at this stage and have not even looked at the course content. I am a rather optimistic person and thought if I looked at the course content I would probably find it interesting and end up doing it. I believe nothing in life is every wasted. But right now my focus is on my photography. Any spare time I have I wish to spend developing more skills etc. Surely that is acceptable?

You know I am really proud of what he has achieved in life and tell him so. He is in IT and is really good at it. He has great vision and I believe he is in the right job. I just can't get that he could physically sap me from my energy by just looking at me with that depressed look on his face. It baffles me that he can be so depressed about life in general when there is so much to be happy about.

Anyhow thanks for listening, I will go for counseling, will keep the Forum updated, so we can all learn and will probably still carry on talking with myself.