There is a song I wrote when I was in my twenties after leaving an abuser and loosing not only my posessions but a lot of myself.

When we walk through the fire
it's then we learn
only things that don't matter
are the thing that get burned
and all the things that got burned
they didn't matter at all

and we learn how to laugh
and we learn how to play
we learn we can love
by not running away
cause we know when we do
it's not running at all

so we walk through the fire
where we learn how to dance
we lose what we loved
even if it's by chance
and we learn what we lost
was not ours at all

so when we walk through the fire
remember to learn
only things that don't matter
are the things that get burned
and all the things that get burned
they don't matter at all

I hipe this helps you,