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Old May 18, 2004, 12:23 AM
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Sometimes supporting your spouse involves learning more about what they are interested in, such as taking that class that he registered you for, but it sounds like he wants you to choose that over the photography that you really want to do. I think that if you feel pressured into doing what he wants at the expense of your dream, you will both find it unsatisfying. It's easy to think, like he seems to, that if you really like something, your spouse will too, but it doesn't work that way, and spouses don't have to have all of the same interests. My husband is really into scuba diving, and he would love for me to do it with him, but I'm just not interested enough in it to be willing to get cold (which I really don't like) and get past the fears that I have, and he respects that. Sometimes we wish that we had more interests in common than we do, and sometimes one or the other needs to bend a little, but one should not have to sacrifice all of their interests for the other.

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