Is your therapist telling you this?

you don't have to answer that.

But I still disagree.

Rape is not our fault!

Many survivors can physically run, but they are paralyzed with fear or they are so attached to their abusers that they feel compelled to stay and allow their abusers to hurt them.

I know you are in a difficult situation where you cannot switch therapists. You have to hear what she says, I know. Do you agree with her? I don't agree with her.

I hope someday you can leave this situation and realize that abuse is NEVER our fault.

I allowed many people to abuse me and do whatever they wanted to do to me until I had to realize deep down inside that I was okay and did NOT deserve it.

Now I am trying to get away from situations and ppl that hurt me.

It is trial and error.

But it can be done.

It can.

I have to believe that all the time, even when I don't want to.

Carol

Here is an off the wall suggestion. Do you know someone (an adult, like a school counselor) who can be your advocate? Someone who can meet you at your therapist's and talk to her on your behalf because she doesn't or won't listen to you? Maybe you do have the voice to stand up for yourself, I don't know, but she obviously is not really listening to you.

I wonder what her credentials are?

Something to keep in the back of your mind as you get older, I am seeing a Clinical Psychologist, a Doctor with a Psy.D. after his name, like Dr. Jones, Psy.D.

I say this because I'm now 49 and have been in and out of therapy since I was 21. I went to therapy at that time because I HATED my Mom. My male therapist (Masters in Social Work) convinced me I really had issues with my Dad. Perhaps I did have some issues with my Dad but it was my Mom who really really was the abusive one. Emotionally abusive. And now, after almost one year with my Psy.D. I am really making some progress.

Until you find a good therpaist, these issues will haunt you all your life and you can either deal with them and have a chance at a happy life or avoid them and have a miserable life.

I feel for you so much. What all the other posters said is so true so I won't reiterate anything here.

Please try to keep yourself safe.

With peace and love,
EagleNebula.