I am curious about some of the differences perceived in how a male partner receives this information versus a female partner. I have found with the women I have been with (perhaps an excessive number of msws in my life and fewer gym teachers) has been a super over the top heightened absurd sensitivity. Tied in with feminism and taking back the night and so forth. If anything, it was like they can be too happy to hear about it. Like it gives me a romantic or tragic air or something.
For what it is worth, I don't condone men or women breaking up by email or text.
And when csa has come up for me, or when I have felt the need to give an explanation that includes csa as part of why I react or don't do something, it has been in the context of sexual activity. Which I find somewhat odd and like maybe I am using it as an excuse rather than explanation because mine involved an older male not female.