Hello, I'm in a bit of a pickle. My wife and I have been married almost 11 yrs. I thought we had a good relationship up til 3 monthes ago. At that point I started suspecting she was in a relationship with another man. After about a month of searching and spying I confronted her and she confessed. It turns out she had been texting someone else because he was going through the same feelings and as you guessed it; it just clicked and they became close to the point of engaging in some type of emotional relationship. At the point of my confrontation, she immediately broke it off with him. We still love each other and still live together but everything has changed. She says that there never was that type of love that she envisioned as to be a soulmate with me. I am having a hard time forgiving her and at the least trusting her. I do not want to end our marriage. We have too many good times together. We have 2 children and we still kiss and say I love you morning and night. It is just awkward right now. We have been to counselling and I have told her that I am willing to try to make things better only if she is 100% committed. I gave it a year of trying to make things better. Our sex life has ground to a halt and I don't see it getting better any time soon which is understood. I'm trying to put what she did behind me. I understand that there was a reason for her straying which was the real problem. I'm not that great a conversationalist; but I'm trying to improve. I really don't know where she stands yet as far as to what she intends to do. It's just hard to be in this middle ground of not knowing which way to go. Do I stay with this and hope we can improve our marriage or are we just on a path to separation. Only time will tell and this is going to be one long year. Any advice would be appreciated thank you-- d