Well, I feel you need to be patient with and respect yourself. Your therapist is correct to get going on helping you. I understand the monsters that have not been dealt with because eventually that causes bigger problems at a later time. Please come back to this thread to post on your progress.
You need patience for yourself to work through your issues. To be good to yourself by working through painful things that need to processed because you are worth it.
So, hopefully other PC members can add to what I have written. Take care.