Our pastor also required us to go through couple's councelling before we got married. At that time he told us he saw some of the things that were going to give us trouble in the future, and you know what he was 100% right.

We have been trying to plan the wedding on our end to make this easier for our son. His future MIL stuck her nose in (although they are not planning on contributing financially to anything) and now things are at a stand still. Laws do not apply to this woman! We've told her in this state you have to get the marriage licence a minimum of five days before he can legally get married. That time is with the military waiver that they have. She keeps overlooking these hurdles as if they do not exist. My son will be home for a total of 12 days. He will arrive on a weekend, so that means that he cannot get married until he has been home 7 days. That does not leave us any wiggle room at all. My son does not know what is going on. Yesterday I had the worst day at work I have ever had. He heard about it and called to cheer me up. But unfortunately, my patience were gone, so when we got around to the topic of the weeding things went downhill. He doesn't know, FDIL is deferring to her mother, he cannot get FMIL on the phone, when he does, she doesn't listen to things like time limits and people need time to make vacation and travel arrangements. So I said, ok, this is your deal now. Tell me when and where to show up and I will make every effort to be there. My schedule is made six weeks in advance. If I cannot tell my GM what days I need off soon, I may not have that day off. Not one of my finer parenting moments.