When I was in law school, my friends in clinical psych were all a-twitter (in the old fashioned way) about the new professor they hired to direct the clinical program. I met the guy at a party and just had a really bad feeling about him. He started small, creating just little hurt feelings between people, telling too much here, omitting information there. Staff people were upset at each other, faculty blamed it on them not liking change. He gradually went big, turning faculty on each other, creating one sh*tstorm after another, while idly standing by and observing his handiworks. And when someone-- and these were smart, powerful professors (or as powerful as these types of roles can be) tried to call him on his crap, he claimed that they were the ones lying and he marshalled the even more powerful sorts (the administrators) to take his side. He was now the victim of others, you see.

That guy is now in federal prison for embezzling research funds, but he managed to do this ***** at more than 4 major universities for 30 years before he was caught. Because that's just how good some pathological liars are. And this is what they love best-- creating drama between other people where they can stand back and watch. They are like emotional pyromaniacs.

I don't blame your T-- maybe I really should-- but your description of her really reminds me of this whole situation. So many smart people who had known each other for so long and worked together so well were just-- bamboozled-- by this pathological liar. Their relationships were unraveled in short order and they just could not figure out what the real problem is.

I think your T has been caught up in this. I don't think it's his fault, if she's as good as I think she is. But that doesn't erase how he has cared for you and how he has loved you for all these years. Nothing that has come before this means anything different than it did before he terminated you.

I'm sorry for your pain. I think to whatever extent you can let things go gracefully rather than catch yourself up in symbolic moves against your T, the better off you might be. IMO only.