Adam, have you tried asking one of her friends/family members to bring up the issue of not finding work? it may be a step too far in some people's eyes, but maybe coming from someone who hasn't spoke of it before might make her think about her current situation. but then again.... what do i know about relationships?

i also think that wanting or craving someone who is maybe close to/is our 'ideal' person is normal and a way for us to get or imagine having something that is missing or that we need in our lives. so no worries needed there.

see... i am an intelligent person(sorry my insecurity slipped out :-)

Hope this helps!

--Sam