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Feb 18, 2013, 12:49 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Originally Posted by struggling2
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why would he say that? is that a joke someone would make? a parent to his daughter? im so confused. i have no specific memory just alot of bad boundaries he had and some red flags...but that comment has always felt really eerie to me.
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I can't imagine my dad ever joking about having abused me. I was spanked as a child. Not often. It was pretty common in the 50s. I didn't feel traumatized by it. I was thinking maybe he would joke about that being abuse, but only if he was being derisive about considering spanking abuse. I doubt I would even call it joking. Maybe sarcasm. And I don't see him EVER making it in the form of a question. I can't imagine him EVER EVER joking about sexually abusing me, or anyone else, or about anyone else. Sexual abuse just doesn't lend itself to humor. If I think about it, I don't remember him ever touching either of those subjects except in serious terms
Sometimes when people do somethign wrong, they try to normalize it. Is that what you felt your dad was doing?.
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