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Old Feb 18, 2013, 01:14 PM
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Originally Posted by Syra View Post
Sometimes when people do somethign wrong, they try to normalize it. Is that what you felt your dad was doing?.
I think so? It was just weird how he said it and the fact that he said it at all.
A few months later I sat my parents down and asked them if anything had ever happened to me when I was little regarding possible sexual abuse...and I was asking in general terms and did not even mention my dads name.I asked if I was ever left with anyone or anyone that stuck out in their mind or if i was ever around anyone that drank alot. My dad was very quiet during this conversation and continued to eat his lunch. Its bugged me the way he responded to that..or i guess didnt repsond. At the end he made some random comment that sounded more half hearted like it was something he was supposed to say in that situation "i wish i knew who i did so i could go beat his *****"...and looked at my mom and not me.

Then a few days later I actually just went over there and said i was questioning dad himself and gave all my reasons and my red flags and problems. He was upset but still didnt say much. He cried a little and swore he didnt do anything and never would have. He didnt remember any of the "bad boundary" episodes i was talking about.

Its just all really confusing to me. His weird reactions and then his swearing he never did. Just makes me feel crazy.