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Originally Posted by refika
My T warns me about this happening, specifically because I'm still early in the whole process. Though I have started to feel it by coming to realizations about myself that I'm having trouble accepting.
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Thank you. I wish my T had given me some kind of warning up front. I've heard of other peoples' Ts telling them straight up in the first session. Perhaps she didn't realize how deep my issues went. Perhaps it was for the best that I didn't know though because I very well might not of stuck with it.
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Originally Posted by sconnie892
I have no words of wisdom. But I too have felt the pain of those layers being stripped away.
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Thanks. I think it is helpful to know that I am not the only one that finds it painful. Sometimes T talks about my flaws/what needs to change so matter of factly that I think she forgets how hard it is.
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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
Does it help to make a distinction between past and present?
But what if you focused on the future, and what you can do right now to get what you want? To me that seems like the most important task.
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I get panicky just thinking about being solely responsible for my future, although my mind completely understands the logic of your words. I don't want to fail. If I don't take ownership, I can always deflect blame.
T and I are having a very hard time with my blame/fear of failure thing. I hope a year from now that we can chuckle at my stubbornness.