Atypical has some really good points. We do strive to please our parents. They smiled and cooed at us from day one like we could do no wrong then you realize at some point in your life that they make you feel differently. They may just be scared. Some parents measure their success by the success of their children.
What is success anyway. Sounds like you have an awesome partner who understands you. Many "millionaires" never experience that. Who knows what the future holds. Success of the very best kind may come to you in a week....or later in life. No one knows just yet when. If we measure ourselves with a whip it will surely hurt.
To aspire to meet your "potential" is great but enjoy yourself in the process or life will pass you by. Be kind to yourself....
Wishing you well