My votes: something off happened; and they probably won't tell you about it. How do you act when you're lying vs when you're telling the truth? Their going silent and sticking their noses in their sandwiches sounds evasive to me. Did you read noreasontolive's post this weekend, where he called his mother and confronted her? So powerful to read about. So devastating to him, but she's like, yeah, no biggie. I wanted to strangle her AND my family, they're the same way. Like if they pretend it never happened, the effects disappear too. And they wonder how WE (that is, I) became such a good liar? Ha.