What I meant by bad diet is we ate like crap for the last 5 years. I think even with a bad diet, exercise can offset that. I let her make the meals, and she cooks really good food, it just wasn't healthy. We started buying better food in the last couple months. I made it a point to eat more fruits and veggies and get away from all the processed food and soft drinks.
She is a really good cook, and she enjoys it. She original went to college for that, but dropped out when she got pregnant with her ex bf. She had a miscarriage and ended up staying with him after. She then went through a couple years of abuse and drug addiction. She hasn't used drugs since I known her though. She basically said he wouldn't let her work and made her stay home and not talk to any of her old friends. She started getting depressed and used pot as a means to cope. They were really poor and couldn't afford food half of the time. In some ways I don't think she ever got out of that mindset.
I don't know why. I've never abused her, and even raised my voice to her. I've always tried to encourage her to go out and do stuff, but it's like after she graduated and couldn't find a job, she started giving up on herself. She worked at a day care for 6 months but she got let go from that. She also was a nanny for my old coworker and she kept missing days and got fired.
I'm not sure what to do about any of it. I fight myself enough to get out of bed and put on a smile for work, that I feel overwhelmed just trying to function with my own life.
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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
What do you mean by bad diet though? She has nothing to do all day long. She can cook intricate and varied meals for you every night, from wholesome fresh ingredients and on a budget because from scratch. When I stayed home with my little daughters, before the advent of commercially produced greek yogurt, I had a yogurt maker purchased at a salvation army store and I made and strained my own greek yogurt. And had plenty of time for that despite needing to tend to two small children.
The secret? I do not play video games. So it is very simple ~ she should reduce her time spent playing video games and do something productive instead. And she is responsible for ensuring that the two of you eat a good diet.
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