I don't think this is about power or a power struggle at all. When you have the ultimate power to decide it is a faux power struggle at the most.

What it sounds like to me is that this is a disagreement and that your T repeatedly refuses to see things the way that you do, especially if your beliefs are distorted. You seem to see agreement as a synonym for love-- if people agree with me, then they love me. If they disagree with me, then they don't.