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1. you could forgive her and accept her shortcomings if her good parts outweigh them
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My unforgiveness is an experimentally verified fact. It's not something I can change by effort of will.
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2.you could avoid situations where you think she will fail you
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I might as well quite if I can't rely on her support in a crisis.
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3. you could tell her you are leaving to find another who is more empathetic (and then be prepared to leave because she won't try to talk you out of it)
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This is the option I am trying to avoid.
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4. you could tell her what you would like her to do at the time it comes up
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It's too late to do that now. Anyway, when I'm upset I need support, not a fight.
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5. you could ask her not to talk at times where she will not respond as you want = so you get to say stuff, but she can't make it worse by saying something stupid at least
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If you can't be supportive, just shut up." Yes, that's worth thinking about.