And yet it seems that one of the other functions of therapy is just the opposite. Some kind of whackjob (to me) "People who need people are the luckiest people in the world", let people in, let people support you etc.
For myself, I am quite willing to go with the we exist alone. I believe that is true. It is the part where other people are not only supposed to be useful to me in some fashion, but the therapist seems to think it therapeutic to try to get me to rely upon her that I find most perplexing. None of this is only one big thing in my opinion, nor is it black and white.