[quote=CantExplain;2896686]My unforgiveness is an experimentally verified fact. It's not something I can change by effort of will.


I might as well quite if I can't rely on her support in a crisis. I agree, some basic level of a therapist being able to show they care in a crisis is necessary for a decent therapeutic relationship. Unfortunately, when it comes down to it, some t's just really don't give a dam* about some of their clients.


This is the option I am trying to avoid.


It's too late to do that now. Anyway, when I'm upset I need support, not a fight.

Stating what you need in a nondemanding way doesn't have to be a fight, but it's a risk that you might not get what you want, and it's a hard time to be vulnerable when you already are vulnerable in another way. Sometimes it's not worth the risk I think.