Wow. Touching posts...
Teared me up a bit too. And as one who can't relate at all to either (EDs or cutting), it can't be chalked up to relatability. What it can be chalked up to is how very clear it is that you are well-loved here, Mm!

You know, with your husband recently having gone through a med change, and you in the midst of ramping up on your new med (and wondering if not being up to proper dosage is contributing, to boot...) You've both been on the ride long enough to realize that it's probably not the best time to be making big decisions, yes? Like Christina suggested, let him know how you love him and how you are working through it and maybe give a gentle reminder that's it's not a good time for big decisions. He may well simply not thought about that, being caught up in the midst of a turbulent time. It happens.