Hi CE,
For as long as I've been on here, which is since this past May, it seems like you and t have been in a fight very often. You two don't seem very connected and I sense a power struggle a lot of the time. I don't think this is either of your fault, just maybe not a good match. I'm not sure how long you have been working with her.
If you feel that despite feeling unsupported, there are strengths of hers that are important enough to keep working with her, then I'd try to calmly talk about the situation and see if you can't figure out something she can do in a crisis that would work for you. If she doesn't respond positively, or you don't feel that her strengths outweigh the issues, I'd try and find someone else though I know how hard that is!
Your t kind of reminds me of the last t I tried to see. She was very detached and clinical, and when I came in very anxious and upset she did not respond in a way where I felt supported at all. I told her what I would have needed during that session, and she said she just wasn't comfortable giving this to me. I just quickly realized I couldn't do therapy with someone who seemed so distant and went back and forth between sort of caring (still think she was being fake, just couldn't even begin to trust her) and very challengng, telling me I wasn't taking responsibility for things was critical and on and on. Even though it's been hard these past couple months looking for a t, I know that trying to stick it out with her and continuing to feel unsupported wouldn't have done me any good, and would have probably made things a lot worse.
Good luck with this!