CantExplain >> My unforgiveness is an experimentally verified fact. It's not something I can change by effort of will.
just wondering, but how do you know CE? Have you really made a concerted effort of 'will' to forgive T? Or are you keeping unforgiveness warm & cozy in your breast pocket ? I say this because I have done that and know it's possible.


>> when I'm upset I need support, not a fight.
well...no.... these days, more and more, from what I read of your posts, you are upset and you need a fight.

If you leave to find some other therapist, the scenario will repeat itself. You will never find a T who is perfect, who will never say the wrong thing, who will never react in a way that disappoints you (or worse).

Some psychologist wrote that between every two people, one must dominate. I don't believe that (maybe because I am female and this strikes me as a uniquely male viewpoint? IDK). But a power struggle with the T - in my own opinion, based on limited experience - is self defeating. The work is not about T. It's about you. The more time and energy is wasted on a power struggle, the more time and energy is lost which could have been used focusing on the work.

can you not sincerely try to set this power struggle aside and just get on with it?