CE this is confusing me a bit. If she's expecting you to give up control through free choice (the only option that would be therapeutic IMO) where does the issue of her taking your power by force come into it? Or am I missing something here?

I get how you need to trust that she's not going to mess you about if you do voluntarily give up your power (or control?), is that what you mean?

Sorry to be obtuse, maybe you could elaborate a bit more? Thanks

Torn