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Originally Posted by elliemay
I would suggest that the "if" is simply a turn of a phrase, I likely would not attach too much meaning to it.
The "trying" might give me more pause however.
I think one of the most powerful tools a therapist has in their arsenal is the ability to instill hope. There has to be hope that things can get better.
This ability trumps all others I think.
IF you leave this therapist's sessions, on some consistent basis, feeling hopeless, then it may be time to move on.
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Thank you too Elliemay. I'm glad you can see how the 'trying' comment could be so painful - you are so right about the tool of hope, and that's what this email response from T has ripped away from me. Right up until I got the reply, I had this blind faith in her ability to help me, that so long as she was confident in her ability and held hope for me, it would be ok, I could complain and whine and feel bad and hopeless and despairing and all the other things I seem to feel on a permanent basis and she was ok with that, she still kept the faith that I could be helped.
Now she's taken that hope away
. And made me feel I don't know what to call it, something awful, for having foolishly believed she knew how to help me... I really do feel utterly unfixable at the moment - comes of having seen too many therapists over too many years to have any faith left that there might just be the 'right' one out there who finally gets me
