Been reluctant to post here because I'm not sure that what I have to say is either useful or even relevant, and I'm terrified of getting criticized too - I'm sorry there does seem to be a lot of criticizing going on in this thread, and it's making me a bit wary of speaking up.

Well here goes anyway. I suppose all I really want to say CE is that I relate quite closely to a lot of what you're going through with your T, the struggles, the power plays, the sense of missing trust and the need for T to prove herself in various ways - I understand why that is for me but don't want to presume to attribute the same motives to you.

So just wanting to say that I feel a lot empathy and understanding for your position in these threads and am posting to send you some support

Torn