S4 I ment she was a good mom only in the since of not trying to get custody of them and realizing she is not good for them. Finding a positive in everyone and everything my H says is my downfall. He's lucky I look for the positives. But I'm not gonna get started there.

I am so sorry she ignores the children and appears to be quite self centered. I know that is hard for kids to deal w/. Please tell me you are NOT helping her with a car. You need a car to don't you? I think I recall you saying that.

I know we just had valentines day, but mothers day (in May) is coming up all to soon. As a teacher I always hated mothers day and fathers day. There is no way around this holiday and it brings so many questions and so much pain to so many children. I just hate it for the kids. I am so glad you have the kids. They are all boys and hopefully that will help you and them to relate to each other.

Please take care my friend. Kiss those little boys and let them know what a gift they are to you.