Thank you both for your comments. I DO want things to work out, and I believe that he does, too, I just don't know if we have the communication tools to do so. He comes from a family that NEVER talked about their feelings, and I come from a family that talks about our feelings constantly and at times, at the top of our voices. I've tried telling him how I would like to hear yes, but he says he doesn't understand why I need to hear it all the time, I should just know he loves me, and wants me there. I agree with both of you that at least I should go to counseling, and maybe I could pick up some non-confrontational communication skills, which I definitely lack. He also already knows that I don't like the flirting, which I guess really answers my question about whether or not he wants to make it work. The reason he won't go to a counselor is because he went to one in junior high, and had a very bad experience with it, so I understand that bit. Heigh ho, I guess I knew what needed to be done really, but talking it out a bit here has helped. I hesitated to write a few things, like the extent of the flirting, and that should tell me something. If I can't even admit to it in a completely anonymous forum, if I'm ashamed that I've let myself be treated that way, I need to do something about it. Thanks.