I am not a narcissist. I do not make everything all about me. But can I help it if my heart turns to dust when I see someone hurting? Is it bad that I sob at someone else's sorrow? My xbil's new wife decided to cremate him without talking to his 3 children. She did it without waiting for his oldest son to fly in from the Navy. She decided there would be no services. So, being the way we are, we told my niece and nephews that if they wanted a Life Celebration we would make it happen for them. Their mother took off on a spontaneous vacation so she wouldn't have to deal with it. I don't grieve for my XBIL. I don't miss him, it isn't my loss or about me. But DAMMIT if my niece and her brothers want to celebrate their dad's life, I am not going to look the other way. I will help them.

I know I do too much for people. I know I take on more than I should. BUT IT'S WHO I AM. I cannot just let it be, I have to help. I wouldn't be me if I didn't. I am not trying to be a martyr, or complain about doing it. I just do it. I can't bear to see another person's grief.